I went along to one of Dawn’s workshops which focused on difficult relationships. For a while I had been having problems with my middle daughter. We disagreed of everything, we were arguing a lot and she always seemed to favour her Dad over myself.
There were a few stages of the mediation where we visualised one of our disagreements, the last step was to go back and visualise a happy experience and look at the situation from the other persons (my daughters) point of view.
This process was extremely enlightening for me, the realisation was so strong and powerful that I started to get chocked. I realised I had been forcing my views onto her. When I was young I considered myself a Daddy’s girl, she is the middle child like myself, and I often thought of her as a mini me.
When I was visualising the happy experience from her point of view, the strong message I got was “She’s letting me be a mummy’s girl”.
Wow this was so powerful. For the first time I got the message that she isn’t a mini me, she is her own self. And I need to treat her that way.
The change in our relationship has been immense. We have been getting on a lot better, having fun instead of arguing. There are a couple of occasions recently that have stood out for me. For example, her choosing to sit next to me at restaurants instead of sitting with her Dad. She had her 11+ exams and I dropped her off and picked her up. I never asked her or assumed she wanted her Dad, and she didn’t ask for him, a year prior I would never have dreamt of this being the case.
I feel so grateful to Dawn for helping me recognise the issue, and fixing our relationship before she enters her teens. Such a simple resolution. I didn’t need weeks of therapy all it took was one session to address a problem that could have affected our relationship for our whole lives.
Dawn took us through 'In Their Shoes' - a process of, as the name suggests, putting ourselves in someone else's shoes. Naturally the exercise focused our attention on someone with whom we have something of a problematic relationship with, and despite the potential depths of emotion that this brings, Dawn enabled an easing into this through meditation and to move from emotions such as anger or fear towards the emotion of love for this person.
Coupled with the working with meditation, we also used the medium of art (crayons and pastels) in order to access the healing modality of symbolism and colour.
Throughout Dawn was incredibly encouraging and the warmth of her voice and gentle instructions helped me shift my perspective and gain some very valuable insights.
Am very grateful for this experience, thank you.
I was emotionally distressed and exhausted when I first found Dawn’s number in the Our Watford brochure. I felt my life was falling apart in front of my eyes. After my first appointment Dawn made me realise that my life had taken a path which had become self-destructive due to circumstances that were beyond my control. My father had been ill with cancer from when I was 17 years old and when he died when I was newly married and pregnant with my first child I did not deal with my emotions and blocked them out. Then came a series of events including losing a baby, a disabled father-in-law, my mother had been ill and was dealing with living alone amongst the other day to day stresses of family life. This became a pattern and a vicious circle which I spent the next 15 years ignoring, hence a build up of pressure and emotion exploding shortly after my 40th Birthday.
Dawn worked with me to help me to understand my emotions and I learned quickly how to transform my life from despair and misery to how to take back control. She supported me all the way through and taught me how to look and see things through different eyes, enabling me to understand and deal with what life throws at me. All the work we have done together has helped me create, build and maintain better relationships with my husband, children, family and friends.
It frightens me to think where I might be had I not found Dawn at that time. All her hard work has helped me develop skills and I have taken a Level 1 Skills Counselling Course. I believe everything happens for a reason, however hard and awful and there is a path for everyone. I now find myself in a new dilemma, a daughter who has mental health issues and I am now able to help her through this awful time, staying strong - something I could not have done without the help of Dawn.
Mrs. R. Porter
"What an amazing day! Beautiful surroundings and beautifully guided by Dawn.
The Present Parenting workshop has been invaluable. Each day that goes by I am having new insights into my experiences of being parented and now how I parent myself. The guided mediations, creative drawing and sand tray elements really work at a deep and sometimes unconscious level. I felt safe and supported talking out my own experiences. The perfect atmosphere to explore and learn!
Thank you Dawn!"
A Present Parent Workshop Client
"On the evening after attending the workshop Present Parents, I had a challenging phone conversation with my adult son. My dilemma, historically as a Mum, has been to lose myself and drown in the presenting 'problem' with my children. I lose the essence of myself as separate and solid and grounded in the here and now moment. I become obsessive about solving, fixing, rescuing and making better. Because of the learning I had gained; a lot of it visual and therefore very graphic and clear, I was able in the moment of speaking to my son, to recall the image, the sculpt I had made, illustrating my task, to stay separate, yet be present and supportive whilst allowing him his autonomy and self direction to be all that he is meant to be. I was able to trust that I was good enough. I did not have to over compensate and bend myself out of shape, all I had to do was listen. After the conversation, I felt calm, proud and a lot more steady than other times in the past when I had been left feeling resentful, used, misunderstood and dissatisfied with our relationship. The workshop taught me how to trust in myself, how to allow space for myself and my child to just BE, to trust the process and the relationship. There is no need to push the river, as it were. Yippee! what a relief. Parents of adult children will really really really benefit from this workshop. We are all parenting for very much longer these days. I am so grateful for Dawn's creative non-judgemental delivery on how to make parenting a more rewarding experience."
A Present Parent Workshop Client
"I have known Dawn through therapy for just over a year so when I heard about the Present Parenting course I knew I wanted to attend.
I must admit that I went with no specific expectations or desired outcomes, but what I gained on the course was far more than I could have hoped for.
Dawn's approach is very much centred around you as an individual & your personal family situation, there are no step by step parenting techniques, not teaching as such but more a journey of realisation & discovery. What I have gained from the course is recognising the way I was raised, who I have become as a result & the way I parent my children. Above all it had helped me to identify the parent I want to be & can be.
I find it difficult to put into words what I feel I have gained from the Present Parenting Course with Dawn but the course has stayed with me & made me mindful of my parenting & being true to myself & my family. I can only see benefits to us all from my journey with Dawn.
A Present Parent Workshop Client
"...You have given us stability and understanding of some of the finer things in life that sometimes seem to pass us by so easily despite being so close in front of us; how wonderful our own children are and how precious family ties can be.
Our daughter has flourished with your care and your help and it is with great pride that we now watch her as she completes her primary years and embarks on the next stage of her life.
Thank you, thank you - you are a credit to your profession and I can not put in to words how highly I would recommend you..."
Mrs. S. Pimm,
mother of 11 year old
"Thank you Dawn for helping me with my long list of concerns that were dragging me down and for getting me back to looking forward to the future."
"I'm sure you're used to receiving emotional thanks from relieved parents but I wanted you to know something. What you have both achieved is both remarkable and wonderful and I will be grateful to you for the rest of our lives. To say you helped give me my son back is not accurate. It's better than that. I brought you that poor broken kid a couple years ago and look at him now. You helped him find a potential future and gave him the confidence and courage to fight through... you opened the door and taught him he deserves a good life like everyone else."
Mark Luttit, regarding his teenage son
"In this day and age it can be a rare thing to discover someone who can genuinely help us on our journeys. Dawn Rosser does this with true, grounded compassion and care."
Dr. Gareth Thomas
"I first said to you that I didn't expect a miracle cure. What I actually have is a much greater respect and understanding of myself. I have an inner peace which is as much as you can wish for."
Miss Nicky Mitchell
"My experience of being a client through therapy with Dawn couldn't have been any better. Dawn is not only very flexible and professional but she is such a great listener, caring, understanding, encouraging and really empathised with me. I learnt that no matter what, therapy wouldn't have worked for me unless I formed a bond with my therapist and actually wanted to be there and take part in each of my sessions, which is exactly what I did with Dawn. Dawn had many useful resources to help express myself, such as a sand tray, painting, music, drawing, toys and visualisations. These helped me a lot and I was always confident in trying different ways to help express my feelings and emotions. During therapy I didn't see me coping on my own without Dawns help and support but Dawn made me realise I was actually helping myself. Within my time spent with Dawn I never had the confidence to see our time together coming to an end and again Dawn made me realise that one day I would be ready to finish therapy and within time I began to see Dawn less and less until I was ready to come to the end. I truly recommend Dawn to anyone who really needs that someone special and professional to confide in and have to help and listen to them as Dawn was that very special someone to me."
Gabriella Walters (from age 16-18 yrs)